What happens when you wake up one day and realize that all of the goals you set for yourself as a young woman are mostly complete? You are now in your 40′s and have checked the boxes you set for yourself in your early 20′s. Things like:
Attain a bachelors degree – check
Get married – check
Start career and climb up corporate ladder – check
Buy first home – check
Buy 4 door, practical car for future family – check
Have first child – check
Work on climbing corporate ladder more – check
Have second child – check
Buy larger home – check
Continue climbing corporate ladder
You realize you’ve checked all the boxes. Everything seems to be going swimmingly. Your oldest is approaching the end of high school. Your youngest, still in elementary school, but growing quickly.
What now? What goals do I set now? I am interested in setting goals? I have had a good career and while I’ve done well I haven’t attained all the career goals I have thought I would. But is it worth to reach for more? Will it fulfill me?
This is where I am at in my life. And so far I discovered that this has been a wonderful time to discover more about me. Who I am, what I’m doing and as Oprah would say, how to live my best life. I’ve spent a lot of time working on myself and it’s been a tough but satisfying journey.
I have re-discovered friendships. For so many years we were all so busy raising children and running them around that we didn’t have time for friends. Now we are all starting to free up and we actually get to socialize with them more. The teenager can babysit the younger one on occasion. We can meet for dinner. We can meet on a Sunday afternoon to listen to a band at the local watering hole.
I have time to work on my relationship with my Savior. I get to think deeper thoughts and explore where I want to go with my relationship with Him. I am learning to surrender myself to His will.
You also get to find out that your children are pretty cool. You can start to have real conversations with them. Talk about their hopes and dreams. Enjoy their sense of humor, which is for me is the most amazing thing. I love to laugh with them about stupid stuff and family jokes.
This is turning out to be a really awesome time. It’s making me look forward to my 50s. I am hoping that I’ll get to travel more with my husband and continue to watch my children grow and start to fulfill their own dreams.
What happens when you reach your late 30s and early 40s and you realize that you accomplished most of your goals?
I am pretty sure I don’t have the definitive answer for it. But for me, so far, it’s been about re-discovering who I want to be, to have the luxury of more time for friends and watching my children blossom into young adults.